What is it like to home educate?

We have collected a few stories, but of course every home educating family is different – and home education can even look quite different for different children in the same family, or over time. You will find many more stories and the parents themselves on our Facebook Group, where you can ask them questions directly.

Sarah – North Coast

My mum bought me a book about Home Education when my eldest was only 7 months old – I think she wished she had known about it when I was small.

Starting from the very beginning we have always primarily followed our children’s interests and haven’t used a curriculum. We’ve found that when the time is right they learn something amazingly fast, if you’re there and ready to support them. Some of the questions I get on a day-to-day basis are quite surprising!

My children are very interested in computers – we have a house full of them because of our work. It’s interesting how that interest comes out in each different child – my eldest likes the rules and the technical aspect, my second loves to use them to make narratives and my youngest (still very young) seems to be intrigued by the hardware – he’d love to get the back off one!

Michele, Co. Armagh 

I enjoyed my time with my children during their early years then sent them off to school the same as everyone else I knew at that time, it didn’t feel ‘right’ to me however I had given them a great start so pushed my worries aside. Six years since sending my eldest to school, and I finally gave in to my second child’s desperate pleas to home educate. Six years on and I still feel guilty for sending them to school as home education is far better for us all as a family.

Since starting home education my children have had more time to follow interests and to become valuable members of our family and the community enjoying St. John ambulance, holistic horse-care at a local stables (Intouch Equestrian Richill), blacksmithing at a local venue, cycling, running for charities, dog grooming at home, art sessions at a local gallery, photography,  dog walking, amongst other things. They are much happier which has made my husband and I happier.

Roisin, North Belfast

I came across HE at a time my son wasn’t happy, was becoming ill. Curing the symptoms led me to the root of things, school itself. However, my cousins and I were taught to value school so for me to consider deregistering my son was a huge break with my tradition.

I had visions of HE being filled with workbooks, curriculum, day trips and more. But this vision was MY vision and not what my son needed. The first 6 months we deschooled, allowing my son to move from the culture of formal school to that of HE. What unfolded was the need for an autonomous approach to learning. While my son decides what, how and when he wants to learn I remain the learning facilitator. I ‘strew’ ideas, opportunities, things of interest across his viewpoint. He can choose any of these and follow them through. I’m there for questions, discussions, support. I do not dictate.

He is now happy, healthy and driven. He is a gifted digital artist and has taught himself through watching youtube tutorials and putting learning into practice. He has designed youtube intro vids for friends. I look forward to what unfolds in his future. 

Nicola, Moira

I never knew home education was an option, I didn’t even know it it was legal. I didn’t know anyone who did it, or even why anyone would bother when there’s so many schools about. That changed when after struggling through four years of primary school with my oldest daughter. You see she was a happy,bright confident and fun little girl but was a June birthday and had to start primary one after just turning four. As her mom I knew she wasn’t ready for P1 and spoke to the principle and was told that she had to start then and it was illegal to hold her back.

So off she set to school aged four years and two months, her first week she was so frightened.every time the left the classroom to go somewhere she would cling to the teacher, then in the gym hall or where ever she was she would put her fingers in her mouth and make herself sick. This was very stressful for all concerned. She struggled with reading, so while her peers were progressing enjoying learning new words she began to guess words copy others and avoid learning activities.

In P2 she kept rubbing her ears saying she couldn’t hear, we got her hearing tested at the doctors – nothing wrong. She continued to struggle with reading and her academic confidence grew less, she learnt to copy others work and ask others for answers. In P3 a different symptom, in P4 another one…

She still wasn’t able to read and constantly told me about her friends achievements and how “stupid””she was. I went to the school three or four times a year and asked about holding her back,or getting her tested for dyslexia. The principle said she  probably did have dyslexia but they never test for it until much later.

You can imagine my frustration seeing my beautiful girl loosing her confidence daily and feeling like no one was helping. I just dreaded her going to high school and ending up in the special needs class believing she was, in her words, “stupid”. I just kept thinking can this change?
Then while talking my friend said that her daughter always wanted to be “home schooled” but it just wasn’t an option for them ,as I said I didn’t know you could!

She told me her friends friend home educated her children In the village I live in and passed me her number. I did nothing about it for a while just trying to persevere with tearful home works etc hoping something would click. Then on the last month of P4 she gave me her school report (every subject D-) she never asked what she got and she just walked away from her friends while they talked about theirs’. The next morning she crawled into my room crying at 5:30 am saying she couldn’t go to school as she couldn’t walk (she was supposed to be visiting her next years teachers class room).

That was it, the final straw! I just couldn’t sit and watch her worrying feeling more and more insecure, and despite my fears of being unintelligent myself enough I decided to remove her and her two siblings from school. I was so scared of messing up. I telephoned the girl in my village and I think interrogated her for hours (poor girl she was very patient). Then I went online and spent days researching and slowly began my home ed adventure!

And what a ride!!! I can’t actually  believe what a relief it has been removing ourselves from what was to us such a negative environment where we both felt like failures. They just all just seem to be soaking learning up,I might even become relatively intelligent my self by the time they grow up! I mean a year ago I couldn’t get her to even listen to a story it was like she was allergic to learning.  But guess what? 9 months into home educating and she has read 8 novels! What a change.

She learning biology (at her request), zoology, as my son age 5 is into sea creatures, we’re researching our family tree, and having fun interviewing people in our family with video cameras. They take regular trips to the planetarium to do stargazing and last week she was sitting on a blanket in the garden reading a space book, by her self, for fun!! They followed the ‘Great British Bake Off’ and now after seeing how they had to use vegetables for baking they want to spend a day as war family- eating what they ate, dressing how they dressed etc… They even told me they wanted to go to the park and imagine what it would be like to spend the night there during an air raid (like granny did).

She has been moved to the first team in her swimming club squad, joined a running club and I have to say we all are having a ball!!! Work always finishes before school is out which they all think is great, all my children are playing together in a way I could only have dreamed of and we never have to rush out in the morning. I have to say now, I wonder what everyone is doing running around like crazy people trying to fit into a schooling system that can never fit all children equally. My only regret about home education is that I didn’t do it sooner!

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